Stick to writing about subjects you know something about – or at the very least, properly research your topics. You have made a very vulnerable subset of single mothers feel even worse. After all, I don’t have a special needs child, and my knowledge of the subject is from the periphery. I say the following with zero shaming, but simply sharing what I wonder: Objectively, we put a man on the moon. Could one of those dates lead to love, companionship, a lover with a man whose life fits yours in a way that satisfies you both? No one in my life has ever loved or respected me the way he does.
You should remove this horribly inaccurate and insensitive post. This post may reflect possibilities for the less severe special needs situations, but it’s actually offensive to minimize the situations you clearly know nothing about. I asked this poster for more information about her situation, and why romance, sex and love is out of the question. Does romance have to mean full-time, traditional marriage- or something that works for both parties? I didn’t know who I really was until he was in my life. I am truly lucky and privileged to have him as my son.
For a certain subset of us, our kids are so severe, there is no sitter available. Here is a summary of our exchange: Me: Can you elaborate in a way that would want me to engage? Mom: I have a 15 year old son, who is severely disabled. That being said, because of his disabilities, my life is unique. In order to do so I will need to share some graphic details. My son has severe, nonverbal autism, debilitating obsessive compulsive disorder, bipolar mania, two inoperable brain tumors, severe epilepsy and possibly schizophrenia.
I made a commitment to him years ago that I would ALWAYS insist he is treated with dignity. He will never be able to speak, but he understands everything that is said. When regulated, he can communicate with an i Pad, yet he always makes his wants known, even without the i Pad.
Once he's met him, the word won't be so scary."She's right.
Nobody could meet David and find him frightening in any way. After all, he's David first and foremost, and he just happens to have autism. Then again, is that fair to the guys I might eventually date? Plus, if he's gotten to know me well enough to be introduced to my kids, he'll probably know about my blogs or at least have friended me on Facebook by then.
I read a sad Facebook post on the Single Mothers who have Children with Autism Facebook page, that started, “YOU MIGHT BE A SINGLE PARENT OF A CHILD WITH AUTISM IF…” and listed 25 (25!!?
) ways to identify yourself in that category, many having to do with the inability to even about dating. He was not right for me, and I was not really myself for that month (although it was so nice to be back in the swing of things again!
Therefore, I travel to his city every third weekend and spend four days with my son.If you were getting attached to someone and they had something big like that hidden away, wouldn't that make you distrust them a bit? But the fact is, for some men, dating a woman with a disabled kid that might be living with her through his adulthood would be a deal-breaker.Hannah Brown, author of "If I Could Tell You" (a book about raising children with autism) talks about how different it is being a single woman with a special needs kid in her article "Divorce After Autism: Going It Alone." Like Hannah, I'm sure there are plenty of custodial autism Dads out there. I have met and do know a large amount of single autism moms, though, and we all face unique challenges when we try to date.Does every single mom to a child with autism end up with a great guy? I was devastated until my gynecologist (Yep, you read that right, too! That’s actually what I called him, although not to his face.