My period of relationship ‘false starts’ taught me a lot about commitment and about my own choice in men.
Now, as a psychologist and dating coach I have regular conversations with my clients about this very topic and it’s great to draw on both personal experience and professional industry intelligence.
Be patient and understanding, help them overcome their issues.
Remind them that all relationships are made up of a series of small commitments and without even realising it they have already made lots.
You know the story – you meet, connect, have a few great conversations, maybe a kiss or two and before you know it you’re ‘seeing each other’.Ultimately, their sense of dread about making a commitment becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, and the relationships they pursue are doomed.Sad though the situation is, if you’re hoping for long-term love but are dating a commitment-phobe you’re probably better off out of the relationship.Ask yourself: Commitment-phobes are the ones who don’t introduce you to their friends or family.They’re the ones who almost never have you over to their apartment.